How To Know He Is THE One

💗”How did you know that your husband was the one?”💗

This question made me pause and think.

It definitely requires a lot of prayer and being sensitive to the Lord…but is there any other advice?

Before my husband and I dated, I already had a “character list” in my heart of what I felt was important for a husband.

Most important to me was…

🌸1. Not to be unequally yoked.
2 Corinthians 6:14 – “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”

Is he saved? Are his beliefs the same? If not, I knew it wasn’t God’s will.

🌸2. Character
Does he have an angry spirit? The Bible says to not be friends with an angry man.

Proverbs 22:24
“Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:”

How does he treat his mother? Sister? That is how he will one day treat you after you are married.

Is he someone you would want to train your children?

🌸3. What are his goals/desires in life?

Do they line up with what you feel the Lord want you to do?

Some things may not come out until after. I found out after we had been dating for a while that Eric was planning on being a professional golfer. I felt like the Lord had called me to serve full time in the ministry…especially missions. One weekend I surrendered to the Lord and planned to break up with him at our next meeting. Unknown to me, the Lord had been convicting Eric to surrender to preach. We both said we had something we needed to talk about the next time we met. He went first and shared what he felt the Lord was calling him to do. The Lord worked everything out, but I know that doesn’t always happen.

🌸Seek the Lord’s wisdom and guidance! He promises He will give it if we ask!

Pray about it during your quiet time.

Pray with him about it.

Pray with your parents.

Sometimes he could seem like the perfect one, with no character issues, no reason for you not to marry him…but the Lord will not give you peace. Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit.

Seek the Lord’s guidance, and He will give it!
James 1:5
“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.”

🌸And seek godly counsel.

Don’t disregard what others think. Are your parents, siblings, friends, pastor seeing warning signs? Sometimes they can see more clearly than you as you may be blinded by love.

Don’t be offended if they share something with you. Go further by asking others what they think.


Proverbs 24:6
“For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.”

I pray this is a blessing and help to you! I’m sure there are so many other things that could be added. But this is a good foundation.

Has the Lord used any verses or advice to guide you as you find/found your spouse?

20th Anniversary

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